Deepest Fears #2: Writing the (Gulp!) Love Scene

wedding photoI do not come from an emotive people.

I’m a Midwesterner by birth. The joke goes that there are three standard responses in our conversations.

#1: “That’s not too bad.” This is suitable for any event from neutral to amazingly super awesome.

#2: “That’s not too good.” This choice works for anything from a minor inconvenience to tragedy.

If choices 1 and 2 just won’t do, the fall back is choice #3: “That’s different.”

Take that and apply it to romance…well, an old Ole and Lena joke comes to mind. (Best read in a thick Minnesota accent.)

Ole comes into the house to find Lena crying.

“Lena, what’s da matter?”

“Oh Ole,” she answers, wiping her eyes. “It’s just…”

“Yes?”

“Ole, you never tell me you love me.”

Ole walks over, and pats her on the shoulder. “Aw, Lena. I told you I loved you on our wedding day. If something had changed…I would’ve let you know.”

Ba doom, Ching!

It’s not that my husband and I are not affectionate, and it’s possible that we might be overheard using the “L” word, but we don’t generally gush poetry as we gaze longingly into each other’s eyes.

That much emotion, publicly expressed, is just not comfortable.

In the setting of a novel, I’ll admit it, a bit of romance is ‘not too bad.’ Still, even getting a book out of the library with a cover that clearly indicates “THIS IS A LOVE STORY” makes me squirmy. Thank goodness for self-checkout…

Unfortunately, the catalyst that gets the murder and mayhem in my novel moving is (you guessed it) a romantic interest. If I wanted to write my book, I had to write convincing romantic-ish scenes. That other people would read. Riiiiiiiiight.

I steeled myself. It couldn’t be that bad.

The first draft was…ok. I felt like some of it was heavy-handed, but I didn’t know how to make it better, and it sounded kind of like some things I’d read, so I went with it.

After substantial polishing, I entered the novel in a writing contest.

Guess what? I should have followed my instincts. They thought it was heavy-handed too. I got called out on the same bits that I hadn’t been entirely comfortable with in the first place.

Back to the drawing board.

With feedback from the contest and considerable editing, I found a few tricks that helped ease my discomfort, and (hopefully) improved the finished work.

First, I hacked and slashed unnecessary dialogue. Anything that didn’t sound like real life or made me squirm WENT AWAY, and I discovered that the story didn’t lose any clarity for it. Allowing characters emotions etc. to be implied rather than stated strengthened those scenes and helped the story move along.

Second, I changed points of view. Rather than using the ‘love interests’ to narrate, I shifted POV to my antagonist whenever possible. He’s really my most interesting character, and his observations kept things from getting sugary while still letting the reader know the essentials.

Third, I strengthened the characters. I knew the characters I was writing well enough to know exactly why they would end up together; I needed to show those traits in my writing and let things happen naturally.

Have I mastered the dreaded romantic scene?

HA! Nope. Plenty of authors handle that much better than I. BUT, I think I can safely say that I’ve come up with a story that fits my voice better than my first attempts, and something that I can hand off for others to read with greater confidence.

What do you like to see in a good love scene? Any tips, writers or readers?

Advertisements

18 Replies to “Deepest Fears #2: Writing the (Gulp!) Love Scene”

  1. I really appreciate your honest perspective here. I, too, find the ushy-gushy love to be quite repelling at times. One of the reasons I loved the film Argo – none of the formulaic Hollywood love 🙂 What has always drawn me to love stories is at least one unexpected or unpredictable element. Sounds like you are almost there – good luck!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Excellent advice, you awesome writer, you! I know, no one wants to hack up the pages, but as my favorite author Diana Wynne Jones often said, any part you read that makes you squirm even a little isn’t worth keeping. If you have to persuade yourself, “Oh, I suppose it’ll do,” it will most certainly NOT do. Thanks for taking us on this bit of your writer’s journey! 🙂 xxxxxx

    Liked by 1 person

      1. I’m glad you like her! I only learned of her thanks to the anime film version. It’s a HUGE departure, but still a good film in it’s own right. Rather like two students in a class were assigned to make their own story with the same list of characters.

        Liked by 1 person

  3. I’m in the same boat as you! Where I am from in Australia must be like growing up as a midwesterner. When I visited canada, my Canadian friedns were like ‘you’re so polite! Not at all like an aussie.’ So perhaps my family are to blame… we just grew up so sheltered and taught to be stiffly polite…which is probably why I find it really hard to write ‘realistic’ romance scenes! I jsut sit there and think ‘How on Earth do I build genuine chemistry that doesn’t make people squirm??”
    Good on you for taking all that advice on board and making your story better 🙂 It’s always tough doing that!

    Liked by 1 person

      1. As long as we try! Last year a publisher told me during a face-to-face pitch all that was wrong about my novel without even having read it. It was pretty hard to hear but I eventually went through and completely revised my novel. And she was right. All the things that made me ‘squirm’ went away after I took her suggestions on board 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      2. Don’t worry, I did cry! By the time I got to my car the tears were sliding out from under my sun glasses. I had such high hopes and she completely dashed them. It was probably a good thing that I was brought back down to Earth – I wrote a new novel because of it, so as you said, ended up being a learning experience!

        Liked by 2 people

      3. And now you’ve got those experiences to share with others- thanks for being willing to do that! I’m on the verge of letting professional people see some of my stuff again…and trying to pretend it doesn’t make me ill!

        Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s